All over the world, marriages are collapsing. The marriage institution has become a mockery of what it used to be in the good old days. There are many strange marriage patterns today. Many men and women are in a mess because the patterns they followed run contrary to Divine Principles. The lives of many have been turned upside down as a result. Unfortunately, today, most marriages are death traps. When people are considering marriages, they will do well if they consider the fact that there are many types of marriages. Many marriages are dead while some are wholesome. Certain marriages are best described as a journey into crisis. An understanding of the various patterns of marriage will enable you to sit and plan before undertaking that journey. The following tips will help you through that extremely delicate process of deciding how you want your marital journey to be like:
Show glass marriage. A noisy marriage that
attracts problems. The essence of true marriage has been lost. Most marriages
have been turned into avenues for worldly showmanship. You will attract various
crowds that will say congratulations opens but stab you at the back secretly.
You must avoid any form of show glass marriage even when your parents are
stupendously rich.
Kidnappers
marriage. It is a marriage where a woman just moved into a man’s house without
proper consultation and the blessings of the parents. In this marriage, there is no
form of payment or bride price, no engagement, pastor’s blessing, traditional
wedding or church blessing. This is a form of stealing a husband or a wife.
This type of marriage cannot work.
Armed
robbery marriage. It is a marriage where you’re forced to marry someone you
don’t like. Such people are victims of marital robbery. Such people are never
happy, they never experience marital fulfilment because their will is pushed
aside and they wake up suddenly to discover that they are married to someone
they can almost call an enemy.
NFA
(No future Ambition marriage). To be properly married, you must have marital
goals before setting out on the journey of marriage. When you go into a
marriage without a clear perception of your future ambition, you will get
frustrated. Before you get married, you must determine issues like career,
destiny fulfilment, usefulness in the house of God and your future influence
in society.
Gold-digger
marriage. If you’re marrying somebody because of money and not love, you have
the wrong reasons. Rather than settle for a quality marriage, many people are
digging gold and struggling for survival. Unfortunately, money cannot give
lasting fulfilment in marriage.
Walking
stick marriage. If a lady marries a man because she wants him to take good care
of her, of course, she is turning him into a walking stick. People like this are
not willing to stand on their feet and trust God to provide what they need in
life. If all you want is a walking stick marriage, what if the walking stick
breaks? No matter how rich he is, there will be a season when the burden career
will be totally unavailable.
Baby
factory marriage. This is when a marriage is mainly for the sake of making
babies. Most parents fall because of this. One of the reasons for marriage is
procreation but beloved, it should be sensible procreation. It is better to
raise a sizable family and teach them the way of the Lord.
Escape
route marriage. It is a marriage when you marry to escape from family troubles
like persecution, frustration and consequences of personal mistakes. Some
ladies are tired of living alone so they engage in this type of marriage.
Marriage can never solve all the problems you have in this life. It is not magic.
It requires a great deal of hard work.
Plaster
marriage. Some people get married just because they want a visa or citizenship.
This marriage cannot work. A plaster marriage can only hide something but
cannot take it away. Plaster marriage cannot erase personal shortcomings. I
counsel you to be real. Own up to who you are, work on your shortcomings and
address your lack. Build up your inner man, stand tall with the help of the
Almighty.
Dog
marriage. This is when you marry because of sexual attraction. Some people are
wrong in the area of purpose. God has not given you your spouse just to make
him or her a mere object of sexual gratification. There must be a balance in
the home. When sex is placed in a proper perspective, the marriage will be
wholesome.
One-way
traffic marriage. It is a kind of marriage where one person likes the other
person without the love flowing from the other side. When only one person is
involved in the love game, such marriage does not work, marriage is supposed to
be mutually beneficial.
Panic
marriage. This is when you get into marriage out of fear. You are tired of
being stigmatised as unmarried, so when the man came with all problems, you
couldn’t end the relationship. You’re scared that if this one goes, will you
get another opportunity and jump into the marriage.
Medical
marriage. Is when a marriage occurs to cure loneliness. Many people are married
but living single because their spouse is a loner. Marriage is not a cure-all
therapy.
-WALE
LAWAL
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